Holiday Greetings

Every year at this time, I find myself wanting to enjoy the warmth and love that people so often show at this time of year.  And I find myself wondering why we can’t have it more often throughout the year.  We need to build a culture where every day most everyone tries to put a little love and warmth in their life and the lives of those around them. It doesn’t have to cost anything and it can be healthier for us than a brand new car! One of the things that often puts a bit of love in my…

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“Why should I praise, compliment kids or students for things they should be doing anyway?”

My experience is that when someone says that or asks that, they—themselves—are feeling terribly un-praised and under appreciated for what they do in life.   The comment really means, “I am unappreciated, so why should I appreciate others?” I don’t attack people for this blinded comment about themselves, nor do I try to argue back from the mountains of evidence showing that all living humans need this. The comment arises from a wound, and the wound needs a healing. How can one do that? Here are two examples: I’ve modeled for PAX Partner Coaches (people who help implement the PAX Good Behavior…

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